When dating begins to feel like a (lousy) job, stop dating. Here’s why: if you’re not enjoying dating or feeling ‘dating burnout’, you may be on a date with your perfect match and you wouldn’t know it. Successful dating relies, more than anything else, on your own attitude and dating approach.
So how do you stop the endless cycle of bad dates, and start moving towards a lasting relationship? Well, there’s a simple method, and here it is:
- Quality is as quality does: if you’re looking to connect with high quality, relationship-minded singles start first with adjusting your dating mindset accordingly. Worry less about what your date can do to entertain you, and more about what you can do to ensure they enjoy themselves.
- Don’t boil the ocean: no matter how impatient you may be to meet your special someone, like all good things in life it can take time. Going on 5 dates a week will not lead you to anything more than dating burnout. Aim for less dates, with more time between dates so you have the chance to see someone a second or third time before meeting someone else.
- Forget the past, don’t sweat the future: good advice for dating and for life – the only thing you can control is the here and now. Focus on the date in front of you, be interested and interesting, and the future will sort itself out eventually.
- The virtuous cycle of dating: focus on quality, compatible matches, which leads to a successful date, which makes you feel more positive and self-confident, which greatly increases your chances of dating success, which will lead you to a lasting relationship.
In the world of Vancouver dating, there is one question more intriguing than virtually any other: what do Vancouver men really want?
In fact, unlocking this riddle just may be the key to solving Vancouver’s ‘dating dilemma’ – and the answer may surprise you:
- Be together: no-one’s perfect, and men know that as much as anyone. But a woman who is in charge of her life and issues, and projects a positive attitude on life and love is a quality that’s particularly attractive to relationship-minded men.
- Be genuine: for some reason, Vancouver has the reputation as a city built on pretense. However, for men looking to find their special someone, nothing could be farther from the truth. Men (and women too) are attracted to someone who despite their flaws is generally open, down-to-earth and happy with who they are.
- Be interested: relationship minded men truly want to feel that a woman is having an enjoyable time on their date. When a woman seems distracted, aloof or simply not interested on a date, it can be a real turn off. Instead of increasing a man’s interest in the woman, it can lead to a short, boring and unsuccessful dating experience. Always remember, even if that particular man is not for you, he may know someone who is – so making a good impression is always the best policy.
- Be relationship potential: a woman who is fun and can have a good time in social settings is generally a positive for most men. But if you’re a women looking for relationship-minded men, avoid partying and drinking to excess in a dating situation. Although that may be an attractive quality for someone just looking for a good time; it’s not necessarily what a man is looking for in a long term relationship partner.
Vancouver just may be the dating myth capital of the world. But here’s the problem: how do you separate ‘dating myth’ from ‘dating reality’?
Here’s why it’s important: separating dating myths from facts is the first step towards IMPROVING your dating life, and finding your special someone. Here are the top 3 Vancouver dating myths, and the truth behind the myths!
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Matchmakers will tell you this about successful relationships: communication means more than immediate chemistry. Ideally, you want both, but finding someone with whom you can communicate openly with SIGNIFICANTLY increases the chances of a successful match.
And, above all else, AVOID these four “relationship killing” communication traits (Source: John Gottman, PH.D.):
- Criticism: complaints are fine. Criticism is more global — it attacks the person, not their behavior. They didn’t take out the garbage, not because they forgot, but because they’re a bad person.
- Contempt: “…name-calling, eye-rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile humor. In whatever form, contempt – the worst of the four horsemen – is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust. It’s virtually impossible to resolve a problem when your partner is getting the message that you’re disgusted with him or her.”
- Defensiveness: “…defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner. You’re saying, in effect, ‘The problem isn’t me, it’s you.’ Defensiveness just escalates the conflict, which is why it’s so deadly.”
- Stonewalling: tuning out. Disengaging. This doesn’t just remove the person from the conflict, it ends up removing them, emotionally, from the relationship.
Matchmakers call spring the ‘Matchmaking Season’ for a reason… its the BEST time of the year to meet someone new.
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It may still be chilly outside, but you know spring is on the way. If you’re single, that’s a reason to celebrate. But what makes spring different from other seasons when it comes to meeting someone new? Well, it turns out quite a lot!
Here are some little known facts about spring dating that can help you meet someone new:
- Its only natural: most of what makes spring a great time to meet someone new is purely natural. Our bodies are hard wired to respond to the season of renewal by emerging from our ‘winter caves’ to seek and find new partners.
- The ‘get outside’ season: As winter recedes, Vancouverites begin to think of getting outdoors and doing new things, which provides a necessary push to meet someone new to do things with.
- Light my way: face it, its hard to feel romantic when the sun sets a 4:30 pm … with daylight savings time now here, there are simply more daylight hours of the day to meet some new people.
- De-layering: flirtation is an essential component of the mating game, and it’s hard to feel sexy in a parka. As the temperatures begin to warm up, and layers of clothing come off, the flirtation season begins.
- Go green: the arrival of March means the beginning of festival season, with Celtic Fest and St. Paddy’s Day being the highlights. Of all the festivals in the year, St. Paddy’s Day may well be the most ‘festive’ of all, and thus perfect for meeting some new people.
- Let love blossom: the arrival of Cherry Blossom season gives singles a great first or second date option – take your date for a springtime stroll among Vancouver’s 40,000 cherry trees. Queen Elizabeth Park or the UBC endowment lands provide an ideal setting to let your love ‘blossom’!
- The ‘season of optimism’: above all, spring is the season of positivity… and in the world of dating, a positive attitude (yours and everyone else’s) is the single most important element of dating success.
New studies say that dating services are ‘more efficient’ than traditional dating. In particular, couples who meet through a dating service get married two years sooner than those who meet through traditional means.
But what does that mean for you? Well, that depends.
Here are some signs that a dating service might work for you, and some signs that ‘traditional dating’ might be your best bet:
- Sooner rather than later: are you tired of ‘dating’, and more focused on meeting true ‘relationship ready’ matches? If so, a professional matchmaking service like Executive Search Dating may be your best bet, as you are more likely to meet matches who are serious about finding someone.
- The more the merrier: if you are looking to meet as many new people as possible (for dating, friendship or otherwise), then traditional dating (ie. bars, singles events, online dating, etc.) may be a good fit for you. Although you’ll likely meet more matches who aren’t ‘relationship potential’, they can help to expand your social network.
- Time constraints: if you are a busy person with not a lot of time to spend on dating, then a dating service designed for busy professionals such as Executive Search Dating may be what your looking for. Such services not only find compatible matches for you, but handle all the date arrangements for you, making it easier to meet quality matches.
- Seeking adventure: if adventure, excitement and drama are what you seek, then traditional dating (ie. the bar scene, online dating, etc.) or even mobile dating apps may be worth a try. While these methods often lack ‘relationship minded singles’, they do rank highly in the ‘low cost’ and ’adventure and excitement’ departments. Do be careful when using these methods however, and be prepared to spend a lot of time emailing, texting and messaging potential dates.
Forget everything you’ve heard about dating “Chemistry” (ie. you have no control over it; it just happens; it’s either there immediately or never; etc., etc.).
The truth is you can greatly increase the chances of having chemistry with someone you’ve just met, here’s how!
Question: Why is Spring considered ‘The Matchmaking Season’?
Answer: Because it’s the BEST time of the year to meet someone new!
Yes, spring still feels like a long way away. But actually, it’s right around the corner. In fact, many singles start thinking seriously about meeting someone new right after Valentine’s Day.
With that in mind, here are some (positive) ways that spring will impact your dating life THIS year:
- New beginnings: spring is the season for renewal, for plants, animals and singles alike. Regardless of how your 2013 went, 2014 is a new year, and a chance to rejuvenate your love life.
- The season of optimism: its hard not to feel optimistic when the spring flowers are in bloom. In dating, moreso than in any other aspect of life, optimism and positivity will lead to more dating success.
- Shedding layers: its hard to flirt with a parka on. With the warmer temperatures, singles can shed some layers of clothing and kick start the virtuous cycle of dating, which often begins with a flirtatious smile.
- More options: as singles all over Vancouver look to meet new people, there are simply more places for singles to meet. Additionally, professional matchmaking services such as Executive Search Dating become overwhelmed with fantastic local singles looking to meet their special someone. Call us today and we’ll tell you about someone that might be a great match for you!
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