The famous Matchmaker Albert Einstein once said: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.”
Here’s what this means for you: if you’re a relationship-minded single, and you’re tired of being single, change things up. Start doing things (today) that will INCREASE your chances of meeting someone special.
And, above all, avoid doing these 10 things:
- Giving up: quitters never win, in life and in love. Nothing truly good in life comes without effort, and that includes finding your special someone.
- Forcing it: the opposite of quitting is trying too hard, which will likely yield a similar result – or worse, you’ll end up with the wrong person. Being proactive in your love life is a good thing, but when it starts feeling like a (bad) job, its probably time to dial it back a bit.
- Complaining: people generally want to spend time with someone positive, and that includes your perfect match. Laughing about the sorry state of your love life can be a nice release, but avoid moaning on about it – try this instead: fix it.
- Getting stuck in a rut: trying the same dating methods over and over will not likely lead you to dating success. Mix it up, visit some new nightspots, attend some fun events, hire a matchmaker!
- Having a long checklist: we all have criteria, but going into a date with a long checklist will likely make connecting with someone new very difficult. Leave the checklist at home and enjoy meeting some new and different people.
- Going it alone: meeting new people is an inherently social activity… and you’re more likely to meet someone new when you’re together with other people, particularly when out socially. Think less ‘lone shark’ and more ‘out with friends’.
- Travelling in large packs: the opposite of going solo, and equally ill-advised, is surrounding yourself with a large group of same sex friends when you’re out socially (Vancouver women, this means you) – making it virtually impossible for someone to approach you and say ‘hi’.
- Doing it yourself: personalized dating & matchmaking services (like Executive Search Dating) are popular in Vancouver for a reason, they work. If you’re too busy or simply fed up with online dating & the bar scene, call us today at 604-462-8743 and we’ll find someone right for you.
- Waiting for the ‘perfect’ match: here’s the truth that most dating professionals refuse to tell you – there’s rarely such a thing as a ‘perfect match’. Here’s what works – find someone compatible in some basic and important areas that you enjoy spending time with; be open to change; communicate, communicate, communicate.
- Entering ‘The Vicious Cycle Of Dating': you feel frustrated about your dating life, which makes you sad. You go on your next date wearing a frown, or not even trying to be engaging, or complaining about single Vancouver men/women. This turns your date off immediately and the date ends early and unsuccessfully. Repeat.
You’re tired of being single and ready to meet your special someone, and you’re out with friends at a local hotspot. Single men and women are everywhere, laughing and smiling. You freeze and can’t think of anything to say or do. You go home alone, without anyone’s number or email.
Sound familiar? Well, it happens to the best of us. Not just in Vancouver, but in every city around the world.
What you need is a quick & easy tutorial on the power of flirting (for men & women). Next time you’re in this situation, follow these easy steps and your social calendar will start filling up in no time:
- Make eye contact with someone you’re interested in, hold your gaze for a few seconds and smile.
- Look approachable (don’t surround yourself with friends so no-one can approach you).
- If you’re at a large table or booth with friends, and you’ve made some eye contact with someone, make an effort to leave your table (ie. order a drink at the bar, step out for some air, etc.) to give someone a chance to say ‘hi’.
- When you are approached, be friendly. When approached by someone you’re interested in, be even more friendly
- If you’re approached by someone you’re not interested in, be polite but do let them know you’re not interested: ie. ‘Hi, thanks for saying hello but I want to spend some time with my friends this evening. Have a great night.”
- When you strike up a conversation with someone interesting, don’t feel obligated to spend the entire evening speaking to them. After a while, suggest you arrange to meet another evening for a coffee or drink and exchange numbers. If you need to, feel free to go back to your friends, or move onto another location.
- Make eye contact with someone you’re interested in, hold your gaze for a few seconds and smile.
- Look like you’re having a good time, laughing and joking with friends and others around you (chat to some people in your area – singles and couples alike).
- Once you’ve made mutual, positive eye contact with someone you’re interested in find a moment to approach them and say ‘hi’. Introduce yourself.
- Keep it simple: ask them how their evenings going, where they’re from, give them a sincere compliment, tell them what caught your attention, etc.
- Don’t ignore their friends, introduce yourself to them if the opportunity presents itself.
- When you strike up a conversation with someone interesting, don’t feel obligated to spend the entire evening speaking to them. After a while, suggest you arrange to meet another evening for a coffee or drink and exchange numbers. If you need to, go back to your friends, or move onto another location.
- If the woman you approach isn’t interested, don’t take it personally, wish them a great night and go back to mingling with your friends.
Recently we told you the 8 warning signs of a potential dating disaster. Well, that was the easy part. The tricky part is what to do once you’ve identified these dating warning signs?
Here’s the secret: there is no secret. Sometimes the solution is staring you right in the face, and it starts with the truth:
- Start with respect: all positive dating experiences – and lasting relationships too – must begin with mutual respect. And respect means respecting your dates time and busy schedule as much as your own. Constantly re-scheduling a date, or showing up very late (the first 2 of the 8 dating warning signs) without a reasonable excuse sends the message that your time is more valuable than theirs. If your date is the one constantly re-scheduling try this – let them pick the time and place that suits their schedule, then make it clear that you’ve adjusted your schedule to accommodate them. If they re-schedule again or show up very late, consider moving on to another match.
- All you can do is try: once you’ve made the effort to go on a date, you might as well make the most of it – even when it seems all hope is lost. If your date seems disengaged, distracted, doesn’t listen or ask you any questions. or is yawning (dating warning signs #3, 4, 5, 6 and 7) you’re faced with two options – get frustrated and storm off or try to make the best of it. Our suggestion: go for the 2nd option. Make an effort to engage your date with some funny stories, ask some questions about the news of the day, or favorite movies or celebrity gossip or favorite TV shows… in other words, anything that might get them at least talking and hopefully smiling. It may all be for naught but, who knows, although your date may not be into you, he or she may know someone who is – and they’ll likely appreciate the fact that you made an effort.
- Not every match is a match: although we’re all about trying, sometimes your best bet is to cut bait. If you find yourself arguing with someone on a first or second date (dating warning sign #8), it’s a pretty good bet that they’re not a match for you. Life’s too short to argue, particularly with someone you’ve just met. Yes, arguments are a normal and natural part of a relationship, but not a first or second date. No need to make a scene though, just tell your date the truth: ie. ‘Thanks for taking the time to meet with me, but I’m not interested in arguing with you. Why don’t we just call for the bill and call it a night?” One of two things will happen next: they’ll agree and you can both move on with your dating lives; or they may only then realize that they’ve been too confrontational and apologize – who knows, the date may even turn out okay in the end.
Executive Search Dating accepts the award for Best Matchmaking Service at the 19th annual Best of Vancouver awards from The Georgia Straight newspaper.
Paddi Rice and Nita Lightbody from Executive Search Dating explain the secret to their high success rate, and why they’ve won the Best Matchmaking Service award 4 years in a row.
WATCH VIDEO: Executive Search Dating Wins Best Matchmaking Service For 4th Straight Year
Have you ever been on a date where things went wrong, but you couldn’t figure out why? Or a date where you thought things went great, but when you called your date the next day they told you they weren’t interested in seeing you again?
Well it happens. Sometimes chemistry happens for one person but not the other. But sometimes, just sometimes, there are warning signs. Learn how to read these 8 warning signs, and you may just turn a bad date into a good date, and on to a second date and beyond:
- Re-scheduling: in life, particularly for a busy person, things sometime come up last minute, forcing you to re-schedule. But if your date is constantly changing plans last minute, it may be a sign that they’re not really that interested.
- Late, not great: if your date shows up late without a good excuse, it’s a sign that they’re probably not that into it.
- Disengaged: if your date is not really engaging in conversation, or simply seems to be distant – it’s likely that they are just not into you.
- Distracted: when your date is spending more time chatting to the wait staff, or worse yet checking them out, it sends a message that they’re more interested in the wait staff than they are in you.
- Not listening: if your date keeps talking over you, or clearly isn’t listening to what you’re saying, it shows they’re not really interested in you.
- No questions: if your date is happy to talk about themselves, but doesn’t ask you even one question about yourself, it shows an overall lack of interest.
- Yawning: a yawn is nature’s way of showing that someone is bored.
- Arguing: if you find yourself in heated arguments with your date, particularly on a first or second date, it’s pretty much a given that things aren’t going well.
In next week’s newsletter, we’ll tell you how to overcome each of these 8 warning signs.
Thanks Vancouver, you’ve voted Executive Search Dating “Vancouver’s Best Matchmaking Service” for the fourth year in a row, in the 19th annual Georgia Straight “Best of Vancouver” awards!
Thanks to all of our incredible clients, and to all those who voted for us. Call us today and discover for yourself why Executive Search Dating is Vancouver’s #1 personalized matchmaking service!
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It’s hard to be happy about the end of summer, but here’s something that may cheer you up: Professional Matchmakers consider fall the ‘Relationship Season’.
Although summer’s a great time for fun in the sun, the arrival of fall’s cooler temperatures and shorter days is custom made for meeting your special someone. With that in mind, here are Executive Search Dating’s top 7 fall dating ideas for Vancouver singles:
1. Show your true colors: bask in the vibrant fall colors with a stroll through VanDusen gardens or the UBC Endowment lands.
2. Oktoberfest: what could be more romantic than beer and sausages – check out Steam Whistle Brewing’s Oktoberfest at The Imperial Room on September 20th.
3. Take it inside: find a blanket, a fireplace and your favourite warm beverage and cuddle with your loved one by an open flame.
4. Farmer’s markets: stroll one of the city’s awesome farmer’s markets and buy some local ingredients, then cook a healthy meal together with your special someone.
5. Take a hike: for healthy couples, hit the North Shore hiking trails for a brisk fall hike before the trails close for the winter.
6. Sporting romance: fall is sports fan paradise and the local sports bars are filled with singles. For Vancouver women looking for those elusive single Vancouver men, you’ll find them there by the bushel load.
7. Film Fest fever: watch the year’s best films at the Vancouver Film Festival, and get started on your own epic love story.
Recent media reports have suggested that Vancouver’s dating scene is “Frigid”. But is it true?
In this recent CTV interview, Executive Search Dating President Paddi Rice reveals the shocking truth, including a simple 6 word phrase that will change everything you know about dating in Vancouver.
Video: Vancouver’s Frigid Dating Scene?… Not So Fast!
A recent survey says 94% of Canadian singles believe a persons ability to manage their finances is very important. But what does that mean for you and your dating life?
In this Global TV interview, Executive Search Dating President Paddi Rice tells you how you can and should manage the touchy subject of debt in the context of a relationship.
Watch Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uSfxS4vejR8&feature=youtu.be
It’s Vancouver’s biggest dating rumour: Vancouver singles don’t like being approached. Don’t even bother. And like all rumours it must be 100% true. Or is it?
If you’ve ever wondered why it’s hard to meet new people in Vancouver, then this fact (rumour) may explain why. If no-one’s approaching anyone, then how are singles supposed to meet someone new?
But here’s the shocking truth: its not true. Here’s why, and how:
- The missing link: the rumour is partially true – Vancouver singles (particularly men) don’t like approaching someone new. But here’s what they’re missing: just because no-one’s approaching each other doesn’t mean people don’t like being approached. Try this – next time you are out socially, come up to someone new and introduce yourself in a natural and friendly way. You’ll be surprised to find a warm welcome.
- Beware ‘The Vicious Cycle': it’s the classic Vancouver dating dilemma – everyone’s so convinced that you can’t meet someone new in the city, that people aren’t making the effort to approach and meet new people, which makes the problem worse, and in fact creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. Do yourself (and your dating life) a favour: next time you go out, leave the rumours at home and say ‘hi’ to some new people.
- Behold ‘The Virtuous Cycle': success in dating (and life) comes to those who are proactive. Try this: be positive, practice saying ‘hi’ to new people (not just single people), next time you’re out introduce yourself to someone new, which will make you feel more self-confident and in control of your single life, which is an attractive quality that helps your dating life.
- Here’s what you have to lose: your single life.