7 Ways To Spring Clean Your Dating Life

Spring is called ‘The Matchmaking Season’ for a reason – it’s the BEST time of year to meet someone new!

Here’s 7 ways you can shake off the winter blues and kick start your love life this season!

  1. Lose the parka:  let’s be honest, it’s hard to flirt in a parka. Freshen up your spring wardrobe, shed some layers and practice saying ‘hello’ to strangers. Let Mother Nature do the rest.
  2. Activity weather:  if there’s one thing Vancouverites love more than anything, it’s the outdoors! Take a hike, or grab a bike and get outside… you never know who you might ‘run’ into.
  3. Patio season:  nothing beats the atmosphere of an outdoor patio on a warm spring Vancouver evening. Take a few friends down to your favorite craft brew pub for some springtime socializing.
  4. Playoff fever:  with the Vancouver Canucks poised to make a long run in this year’s NHL playoffs, visit a local sports lounge on a playoff game night and share your passion with someone new. Your dating life will win, no matter what the score.
  5. Season of optimism:  spring brings with it an optimistic, positive feeling that makes Vancouverites happy and more open to meeting new people. When you see someone you like, smile and say ‘hello’ – you’ve got nothing to lose but your single life.
  6. Ferry me away:  beat the winter blues with a day trip to a local gulf island – check out the open-air markets, visit the local café and meet some ‘locals’ – you’ll be surprised how many Vancouverites you’ll meet.
  7. CelticFest:  celebrate Vancouver’s greenest festival of the year from March 6th to 17th. Music, dance, green beer – the Irish didn’t invent the good time, they perfected it. Laughter is, after all, the world’s most powerful aphrodisiac.

Video: 7 Essential Relationship Skills

Are you ready for a relationship? If so, it’s not just about meeting the right person – you also need to develop your own “relationship skills”. Executive Search Dating President Paddi Rice explains.

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7 Essential Relationship Skills

We’ve all seen the movie: boy meets girl, sparks fly, and they live happily ever after. But is that REALLY the way love works?

Actually, no. The truth is that you can and must IMPROVE your relationship skills – to help you find and build happiness in a long-term relationship.

Here are the 7 essential relationship skills (Source: Dr. Robert Epstein, PH.D.):

1. Communication:  This category involves critically important skills: knowing how to listen, sharing your thoughts and feelings honestly, refraining from criticizing and encouraging your partner to share his or her feelings.

2. Conflict Resolution:  Conflict-resolution skills include techniques such as staying focused on the topic, staying focused on the present, being ready to forgive or apologize, knowing when to take a break.

3. Knowledge of Partner:  What’s his shirt size? What’s his favorite food? After communication, simply knowing a lot about your partner is a powerful way of showing that you care, and makes you better equipped to tend to his or her ongoing needs.

4. Life Skills:  Do you plan for emergencies? Do you exercise and stay fit? Studies show that people usually want their partners to contribute a degree of security to a long-term relationship. People also want their partners to take good care of themselves.

5. Self-Management:  This is not the same as life skills. People who are skilled at self-management take inventories of their strengths and weaknesses and always strive for improvement. They know how to interpret disturbing events in positive ways and they work hard to reach their goals.

6. Sex and Romance:  People with strong skills in these areas inquire and care about how to please their partner sexually, set aside time for intimacy, refrain from blaming their partner when sex doesn’t go smoothly, and try to stay physically attractive for their partner.

7. Stress management:  Do you know how to use breathing, meditation, or imagery techniques to help you fight stress? If you know how to avoid or fight stress, you’ll be better able to love and support your partner.

How To Flirt In 2 Seconds Or Less

Are you giving off the right signals when trying to attract a potential date? Executive Search Dating President Paddi Rice tells Jody Vance on Breakfast TV that your body language is just as important as your flirting attempts.

Tips include how women can attract a man in 2 seconds or less, and the most powerful approach line in the English language!

Top Ideas To Make Valentine’s Day Special

In today’s Huffington Post, Executive Search Dating President Paddi Rice provides his top tips for a special (and affordable) Valentine’s Day!:

Top Ideas To Make Valentine’s Day Special

Video: Valentine’s Day Dating Do’s & Don’ts

With Valentine’s Day approaching, here’s some tips to help you survive AND thrive on Cupid’s big day – whether you’re single or in a relationship!

 

How To Date Like A Matchmaker

Dating can feel awkward, even strange at times. What do I say, how should I act, how did I get here?

But imagine if you were a ‘dating expert’ and knew exactly how to date successfully and meet not one by many potential relationship partners?

Follow these simple rules and watch your single life soar:

  1. Be the person you’ve been waiting for:  remember your ‘dream date’, the person who rocked your world. Be that person. Don’t just show up, resolve to make the date special – not just for you, but for the other person too. Be engaged, be positive, be high energy – make it a date they’ll remember, and it may well end up being a date you won’t forget.
  2. Screen for friendship, not looks:  its natural on a first date to focus mostly on how someone looks. Here’s the problem with that: in terms of a successful relationship match, looks are less important than personality and other less ‘superficial’ qualities. Keep your focus on the ‘inner qualities’ of the person you’re with, and focus less on whether there’s immediate ‘physical chemistry’. If you connect on other levels, you may discover a chemistry that grows over time, which is the most powerful chemistry of all.
  3. Share, care and be self-aware:  to make a true connection, it’s important to be truly engaged on a date. Talking about favorite movies and funny travel stories is always a good start, but aim to talk about some topics of deeper, shared meaning – particularly if you’re on a 2nd or 3rd date with someone. Be sensitive to their needs, and show you care with thoughtful gestures and words when the time is right.
  4. Its not about you:  by focusing more on the people you are with than your own immediate needs, you’ll create a ‘virtuous cycle’ of dating success – one successful date will lead to another, building your own self esteem while making others feel good about themselves. Being relationship-minded from the start will lead you to a relationship in the end.

4 Things That Ruin Relationships

Matchmakers will tell you this about successful relationships: communication means more than immediate chemistry. Ideally, you want both, but finding someone with whom you can communicate openly with SIGNIFICANTLY increases the chances of a successful match.

And, above all else, AVOID these four “relationship killing” communication traits (Source: John Gottman, PH.D.):

  1. Criticism:  complaints are fine. Criticism is more global — it attacks the person, not their behavior. They didn’t take out the garbage, not because they forgot, but because they’re a bad person.
  2. Contempt:  “…name-calling, eye-rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile humor. In whatever form, contempt – the worst of the four horsemen – is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust. It’s virtually impossible to resolve a problem when your partner is getting the message that you’re disgusted with him or her.”
  3. Defensiveness:  “…defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner. You’re saying, in effect, ‘The problem isn’t me, it’s you.’ Defensiveness just escalates the conflict, which is why it’s so deadly.”
  4. Stonewalling:  tuning out. Disengaging. This doesn’t just remove the person from the conflict, it ends up removing them, emotionally, from the relationship.

7 Habits Of Highly Successful Singles

How can you have success in dating, and meet your special someone? It’s a question that’s stumped singles for years, in Vancouver and elsewhere.

Surprisingly, the answer is not complicated. It starts with adopting the right ‘dating habits’, habits that successful singles have used for years to find lasting relationships.

Based on our 10+ years of professional matchmaking experience in Vancouver, here are the 7 habits of highly successful singles:

1.      Open-Minded & non-judgemental:

a.      Don’t judge someone based on physical characteristics.

b.      Sees the inner qualities of someone.

c.      Open to meeting new people.

 

2.      Positive & don’t take things personally:

a.      Warm, friendly, gregarious & light hearted approach.

b.      Positive view on life & happy with themselves.

c.      Focus on positive topics (ie. hobbies, interests, etc.).

d.      Avoid negative topics (ie. ex-relationships, life issues, their dating service experience, etc.).

e.      Don’t take it personally, even when a date doesn’t go well.

 

3.      Interested & interesting:

a.      Genuinely interested in other people.

b.      Are good listeners.

c.      Are interesting people with interests outside of work and dating.

d.      Can discuss a wide range of topics.

 

4.      Good communicators:

a.      Are caring, respectful, thoughtful and understanding.

b.      High energy & passionate about life.

 

5.      Patient & Persistent:

a.      Stick with it & don’t lose hope even when things aren’t going well.

b.      Take breaks from dating when needed.

 

6.      Reflect on what is and isn’t working:

a.      Are self aware and thoughtful about their dating approach.

b.      Carefully consider which dating methods or matchmaking services are best for them.

 

7.      Relationship minded:

a.      Are serious about finding someone – relationship ready.

b.      Approach their dates with a ‘2nd date mindset’.

Video: Online Dating Do’s & Don’ts

How do you get the best results from dating online? In this CTV interview, Executive Search Dating President Paddi Rice gives you some simple but effective tips.