Truth And Lies In Dating

Dating is like a good book – without a good beginning you may never make it to the end. No you should never lie, but you also don’t have to tell ‘the whole story’ on a first date.

The key to successful dating – and to finding your special someone – is striking the right balance on a first date: telling each other about yourselves without getting into too many ‘complicated’ details.

Here’s the list of things you should and shouldn’t reveal on a first date:

  • SHOULD:  what you feel passionate about.
  • SHOULDN’T:  what you really dislike.
  • SHOULD:  what are some activities you enjoy doing, and doing together with someone.
  • SHOULDN’T:  why you broke up with your Ex, or past relationships in general.
  • SHOULD:  what subjects you enjoy talking about and why.
  • SHOULDN’T:  things that annoy you about people.
  • SHOULD:  what you do for a living and why you got into that line of work.
  • SHOULDN’T:  why you hate your job.
  • SHOULD:  what qualities you admire or enjoy in people.
  • SHOULDN’T:  whether you want a family and/or how many kids you’d like to have.

The Unseen Dangers Of Online Dating

Online dating has become an acceptable way to meet someone new, but is it safe and does it work?

The answer: it depends.

The key things to understand about internet dating are what the online dating companies WON’T tell you. Here’s the list:

  • No screening:  in spite of what their ads may say, online dating companies don’t screen your matches.
    • What this means for you:  as you’ll be screening your matches yourself, set up your initial meeting in a public place during ‘normal’ hours. Avoid meeting late at night or in an area you’re not familiar with.
  • Not all profiles are active:  once your profile is online, it’ll likely be sent to other users whether you’re actively dating or not, even if you’re no longer with that online dating service.
    • What this means for you:  if you’ve decided to take a break from online dating, or quit the service entirely, be sure to delete your profile. As online dating companies make this hard to do, you’ll likely have to read the fine print to figure out how to do this. In the mean time, delete all your photos from your online profile as a first step.
  • Not all profiles are accurate:  online dating companies do not review profiles to ensure accuracy. All the information provided is from the user themselves, including age, height, photos, etc.
    • What this means for you:  be aware that not all people you meet will look like their photos. Avoid long email exchanges and arrange to meet someone at some point (or speak to them on the phone).
  • You can’t tell if you have ‘chemistry’ with someone based only on their online profile:  as photos and profiles don’t always do someone justice (and may not be entirely accurate), you need to meet someone in person to know if you have chemistry.
    • What this means for you:  Avoid long email exchanges and arrange to meet someone in person, using suitable safety precautions (see point #1 above).

27 Scientifically Proven Dating Conversation Tips

It’s a problem as old as dating itself: what to talk about on a date? Should you be serious or funny? Sarcastic or sincere? Heavy or light?

The correct answer, in most every case, is to be yourself. But if that seems hard at first, here are 27 scientifically proven dating conversation starters to get things rolling (Source: Dr. Arthur Aron, State University of New York):

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

8. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

9. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

10. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

11. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

12. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

13. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

14. What do you value most in a friendship?

15. What is your most treasured memory?

16. What is your most terrible memory?

17. What does friendship mean to you?

18. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

19. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

20. Complete this sentence:”I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

21. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

22. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

23. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

24. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

25. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

26. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

27. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

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How To Be Unsuccessful In Dating

Success in life (and love) rarely comes easy. The key is to avoid repeating the same bad dating habits that you’ve been trying over and over without success.

Your first step to dating success – and finding your special someone – is to eliminate these unsuccessful dating habits. Here’s how:

  1. Virtual love:  online dating and dating apps are popular these days, but avoid limiting yourself to online dating alone. Attend some single-friendly events with a friend, visit a new neighborhood and practice saying hello to some new people. Real connections happen in the real world.
  2. The numbers game:  if you’re not meeting any new people, that’s a problem. But, likewise, if you’re meeting lots and lots of people through online dating and dating apps, you’ll likely end up in the same place – single and frustrated. Be selective in which services you use. Ideally target services that do at least some screening of matches.
  3. Checklist dating:  no-one likes being interviewed, especially on a first date. Leave your dating checklist at home and focus on having an enjoyable time on your date. Always remember: a 2nd or 3rd date is a much better time to tell if someone’s a good match for you.
  4. The waiting game:  waiting for your perfect match to magically appear is rarely a good strategy. Being proactive is your best best. Try some new activities, take a co-ed cooking or dancing class, host a party and ask your friends to invite their single friends – mix up your routine! Remember the words of that famous matchmaker Albert Einstein: “The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result.”
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7 Spring Date Ideas For Under $20 In Vancouver

If you’re single, who says you have to go into debt this spring to have some fun?

In fact, one of the keys to successful dating is to keep things light and casual on a first or second date. The best dates, in fact, are often simple and inexpensive ones. Here’s 7 Vancouver spring date ideas for under $20:

7 Spring Date Ideas For Under $20 In Vancouver

7 Ways To Spring Clean Your Dating Life

Spring is called ‘The Matchmaking Season’ for a reason – it’s the BEST time of year to meet someone new!

Here’s 7 ways you can shake off the winter blues and kick start your love life this season!

  1. Lose the parka:  let’s be honest, it’s hard to flirt in a parka. Freshen up your spring wardrobe, shed some layers and practice saying ‘hello’ to strangers. Let Mother Nature do the rest.
  2. Activity weather:  if there’s one thing Vancouverites love more than anything, it’s the outdoors! Take a hike, or grab a bike and get outside… you never know who you might ‘run’ into.
  3. Patio season:  nothing beats the atmosphere of an outdoor patio on a warm spring Vancouver evening. Take a few friends down to your favorite craft brew pub for some springtime socializing.
  4. Playoff fever:  with the Vancouver Canucks poised to make a long run in this year’s NHL playoffs, visit a local sports lounge on a playoff game night and share your passion with someone new. Your dating life will win, no matter what the score.
  5. Season of optimism:  spring brings with it an optimistic, positive feeling that makes Vancouverites happy and more open to meeting new people. When you see someone you like, smile and say ‘hello’ – you’ve got nothing to lose but your single life.
  6. Ferry me away:  beat the winter blues with a day trip to a local gulf island – check out the open-air markets, visit the local café and meet some ‘locals’ – you’ll be surprised how many Vancouverites you’ll meet.
  7. CelticFest:  celebrate Vancouver’s greenest festival of the year from March 6th to 17th. Music, dance, green beer – the Irish didn’t invent the good time, they perfected it. Laughter is, after all, the world’s most powerful aphrodisiac.

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